Once in a while, right in the middle of an ordinary life, love gives us a fairy tale. – Unknown
I love weddings. I think they’re magical. From the romantic setting of the venue, to the personalized touches of that are symbolic of the wedding couple, and everything in between that tells a love story – the wedding couple’s love story.
And as a matter of fact, it was just the other day that my youngest daughter was married. It was a glorious day! The weather was perfect; the venue was quaint and picturesque. Family and friends were smiling and happy. The groomsmen were spiffy and dashing. The bridesmaids were delicate and lovely. The bride was nothing short of a beautiful princess, and the groom was more handsome than Prince Charming ever thought about. It was most decidedly the perfect wedding day.
I keep tearing up every time I think about it.
I tear up every time I think about my little girl being married. Married to the love of her life, and how that love of her life was so overcome by the sight of her on their wedding day. Besotted, as Jane Austin would say. Actually, we were all besotted by the two of them.
However, I couldn’t help but be a just a bit sad at the same time. This glorious day meant our family wouldn’t quite be the same ever again. Not in a bad way, mind you. Just that all we once were was going to change. Change is sometimes hard no matter how much you prepare for it. It’s constant. It happens right before our eyes without us even realizing it, which is what made me sad. It’s a mother realizing that her daughter isn’t the little girl she once was but is now a grown, capable woman who has found the one with whom she will spend her life and love.
And so I penned those thoughts and memories for my daughter and her bridegroom.
To my daughter,
I am at a loss as to how we arrived at this day so suddenly. Because I’m pretty sure it was just the other day that I held you in my arms for the first time and I was instantly in love with you.
I’m pretty sure it was just the other day that we brought you home from the hospital.
I’m pretty sure it was just the other day that I danced around the room with you and sang to you.
I’m pretty sure it was just the other day that you said “mommy” and “daddy” for the first time.
I’m pretty sure it was just the other day that you took your first steps.
I’m pretty sure it was just the other day that I heard you laugh and held you when you cried.
I’m pretty sure it was just the other day that you insisted on picking out your own outfit. So when you came out dressed from head to toe in pink and purple, I realized you had your own sense of style, and from then on we dubbed you our little hippy chick.
I’m pretty sure it was just the other day that I was reading adventure stories to you and your brother about distant lands, dragons and magic.
I’m pretty sure it was just the other day that you shared with me your hopes and dreams.
And just like the other day, I told you today how proud I am of you.
And just like the other day, I told you today how beautiful you are.
And just like the other day, I told you today that I love you.
So you see? This day can’t be here already because you were my little girl just the other day.
To [my new son-in-law]:
While all these ‘just the other days’ were happening, I couldn’t help but think about the one who would steal my daughter’s heart…because, you see, it couldn’t be just anyone.
It couldn’t be just anyone to take one look at her and be truly in love with her.
It couldn’t be just anyone to make her laugh or to hold her when she cried.
It couldn’t be just anyone to appreciate her sense of style.
It couldn’t be just anyone to go on adventures with her and create cherished memories with her.
It couldn’t be just anyone to share her hopes and dreams.
It couldn’t be just anyone to tell her she’s beautiful and to say “I love you.”
So when she brought you around and told us how she felt about you, I knew that you weren’t just anyone; you were the one for her.
Which means you are the one for us, too. You are now as much a part of our family as she is yours. And we are proud to call you our son-in-law.
Lastly to you both with regards to [your son]. Know that his ‘just the other days’ have already begun.
It was just the other day that you held him in your arms for the first time and were instantly in love with him.
It was just the other day that you brought him home from the hospital.
It was just the other day when you helped him take his first steps.
And it was just the other day when he called you both “Babe“.
And while all these days are occurring, know that out there somewhere is a little girl who will become the one for him.
But until that day, [Son-in-Law], emulate the man you want him to become by the way you love and honor [your wife].
[Daughter], emulate the woman you want [your son] to find by the way you respect and cherish [your husband].
And to both of you, show [your son] what true love really is by remembering that:
All my love,
I have found the one whom my soul loves. – Song of Solomon 3:4
Do everything in love. – 1 Corinthians 16:14
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. – Ephesians 4:2
Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. – 1 Peter 4:8
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. – Ephesians 5:25
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. – Ephesians 5:33
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. – Genesis 2:24
So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate. – Mark 10:9
Set me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm, for love is strong as death, jealousy is fierce as the grave. Its flashes are flashes of fire, the very flame of the LORD. Many waters cannot quench love, neither can floods drown it. If a man offered for love all the wealth of his house, he would be utterly despised. – Song of Solomon 8:6-7
There are three things that amaze me—no, four things that I don’t understand: how an eagle glides through the sky, how a snake slithers on a rock, how a ship navigates the ocean, how a man loves a woman. – Proverbs 30:18-19
Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. – Romans 12:10
Be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you. – Ephesians 4:32
I am my beloved’s, and my beloved is mine. – Song of Solomon 2:16
Love yesterday, today and forever. – Jeremiah 31:3
I hold you in my heart, for we have shared together God’s blessings. – Philippians 1:7
In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered. – 1 Peter 3:7
So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him. – 1 John 4:16
Above all things have intense and unfailing love for one another.- Romans 12:10
So she became his wife, and he loved her. – Genesis 24:64
Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. – Proverbs 3:3
And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. – Colossians 3:14
Title photos courtesy of Crystal Nichole Drobeck Hobby Photography